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Hi Friends! Today’s my birthday!! I had a different post intended for today, but I really felt the need to share this today!!

A Small but Important Life Lesson

As I celebrate being on this Earth for now 28 years, I just want to share a very important lesson that I have finally learned (and will probably re-learn in the future). You are YOU and that’s your super power. No one else can do the things that you do, the way you are doing them. If we all truly embrace our unique God given talents and powers, then we can do wonders. 

Comparison, and how to kick it

Comparing myself to others is something I’ve been struggling with, especially while my foot has been broken. I wasn’t going to share it because it’s a bit embarrassing, but I figure why not? If it helps you to realise that you shouldn’t compare then it’ll be worth it. I’ve been comparing myself to not only others, but my former myself. It was really pulling me down moodwise and is one of the reasons why if you follow me on Instagram, you may realise I haven’t shared much outside of speeches and posts. 

That all shifted about 1 am into my birthday today. My inner mentor kicked into gear, I gave myself a pep talk and I honestly feel clearer right now than I have felt all of 2019. Also, I watched some older videos of mine and I realised man, I have GROWN. I not only got a little laugh out of the difference, I got a wave of acceptance. I will never be the “old” Jessica and that’s good because I want to always be growing!! Not just age wise, but personally, in my work, and I have grown at the right pace. I have grown at the pace meant for my life. My life is the life I should be focusing on and paying attention to, and that’s exactly my plan for my 28th year.

Poetic Reminders

If you’re currently struggling too with comparing your life position to that of others, remember, you were created perfectly, with no flaws and no mistakes, but just as YOU were supposed to be. You are exactly where you should be right now. There’s are two poems by Rupi Kaur, my favourite poet, that sums this up perfectly: 

First, my favourite: 

The universe took its time on you

Crafted you to offer the world

Something different from everyone else

When you doubt

How you were created

You doubt an energy greater than us both


Rupi Kaur, The Sun and Her Flowers

Second, a new life motto:

I will no longer 

compare my path to others 

-I refuse to do a disservice to my life

Rupi Kaur, The Sun and Her Flowers


A Shift: Gratitude

Remember, comparison truly is the thief of joy as Teddy Roosevelt said. Something that has helped is a practice of gratitude which I’ll admit I haven’t done as much as I used too. I want to put out a positive message that we all instead focus on all the amazing things in our life and re-read our accomplishments. Seriously, make a list of ALL the things you’ve accomplished in the last month, year, or life, whichever format fits you. Then when you’re feeling down, read it. Remember it.Recite it. You are great. You are enough.


Have an amazing day friends!