Out of the Kitchen: It’s My Birthday! + A Quick Lesson
Hi Friends! Today’s my birthday!! I had a different post intended for today, but I really felt the need to share this today!!
A Small but Important Life Lesson
As I celebrate being on this Earth for now 28 years, I just want to share a very important lesson that I have finally learned (and will probably re-learn in the future). You are YOU and that’s your super power. No one else can do the things that you do, the way you are doing them. If we all truly embrace our unique God given talents and powers, then we can do wonders.
Comparison, and how to kick it
Comparing myself to others is something I’ve been struggling with, especially while my foot has been broken. I wasn’t going to share it because it’s a bit embarrassing, but I figure why not? If it helps you to realise that you shouldn’t compare then it’ll be worth it. I’ve been comparing myself to not only others, but my former myself. It was really pulling me down moodwise and is one of the reasons why if you follow me on Instagram, you may realise I haven’t shared much outside of speeches and posts.
That all shifted about 1 am into my birthday today. My inner mentor kicked into gear, I gave myself a pep talk and I honestly feel clearer right now than I have felt all of 2019. Also, I watched some older videos of mine and I realised man, I have GROWN. I not only got a little laugh out of the difference, I got a wave of acceptance. I will never be the “old” Jessica and that’s good because I want to always be growing!! Not just age wise, but personally, in my work, and I have grown at the right pace. I have grown at the pace meant for my life. My life is the life I should be focusing on and paying attention to, and that’s exactly my plan for my 28th year.
Poetic Reminders
If you’re currently struggling too with comparing your life position to that of others, remember, you were created perfectly, with no flaws and no mistakes, but just as YOU were supposed to be. You are exactly where you should be right now. There’s are two poems by Rupi Kaur, my favourite poet, that sums this up perfectly:
First, my favourite:
The universe took its time on you
Crafted you to offer the world
Something different from everyone else
When you doubt
How you were created
You doubt an energy greater than us both
–irreplaceable
Second, a new life motto:
I will no longer
compare my path to others
-I refuse to do a disservice to my life
A Shift: Gratitude
Remember, comparison truly is the thief of joy as Teddy Roosevelt said. Something that has helped is a practice of gratitude which I’ll admit I haven’t done as much as I used too. I want to put out a positive message that we all instead focus on all the amazing things in our life and re-read our accomplishments. Seriously, make a list of ALL the things you’ve accomplished in the last month, year, or life, whichever format fits you. Then when you’re feeling down, read it. Remember it.Recite it. You are great. You are enough.
Have an amazing day friends!
Happy Birthday!! Thank you for sharing the beautiful thoughts. May this be the beginning of a peaceful, powerful and bountiful year!
Thank you so much Lorraine!!
A very beautiful post. I am 75 years old and can still learn from others. I love your recipes too.
Have a wonderful birthday and healthy recovery! I love your energy and wonderful website! 🙂
Thank you so much Beth and thank you so much for being here!!
Well, I’ll be! Happy Birthday, Jessica. I’m glad you’re opening up again and seeing the future as a path waiting for you to bring your changes into. Funny, my post from DAILY OM gave me a message akin to yours. An affirmation for you and a way to help you get past those times you just can’t seem to get things going:
Stagnation is often a sign that great changes are on the horizon. Courting the change you wish to see in yourself and in the world around you is a matter of acknowledging that only change begets change. The results you so ardently want to realize are well within the realm of possibility, and you need only step away from the well-worn circular path to explore the untried paths that lie beyond it.
I have never thought of you as a person in need of pushing, but then, I’ve only “known” you for a month. Your outgoing personality lets me know you are bound to move in a good direction!
Hi Randy,
Thank you so much for your comment! It really made me smile on my birthday and was so helpful! You’re right, I don’t usually need pushing so seems you do “know” me well! Thank you for this advice and I will continue to push ahead and looking forward tot he great things on the horizon!! Wishing you well!!
Happy Birthday! ???. 28 just a baby!!! You are right you can’t compare yourself with anyone, because you are one of a kind! Always try to be the best you, that you can be, kind, caring, loving, forgiving! Have a blessed Birthday!!!
Happy Birthday! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are beautiful and so radiant. I love your recipes.
Aww thank you so much Shannon that’s so sweet of you!! So happy you love my recipes!
Happy Birthday Jessica! You are wise beyond your years. Thanks for sharing.
Suzanne
Thank you so very much Suzanne!!
OMG: HAPPY BIRTHDAY how old did you say you just turned???? Are you sure??? Your wisdom is so inspirational for such a young chippy. I wish i lived next door and could be your friend. God bless you.
Aww haha thank you so much Phyllis!! That means a lot. Oh that would be amazing if you lived next door, I would love that! God bless you too!!
OMG – Greetings, Jessica – it’s Jessica from DC. I want to wish my fellow Pisces sister a WONDERFUL Born-Day! Yup – that’s right – we share a b-day month and zodiac (mine was March 10th). I love the poetry and the sentiment of this post. May you have a great day, year and for-eva!
Aww thank you so much Jessica and I hope you had the best birthday ever!!! Sending you lots of love!! <3
Happy Birthday!
Wish you a beautiful birthday…
Thank you so much Wayne!!
<3 Jessica
Thanks so much Lorraine!!
<3 Jessica
Happy birthday Jessica! This was such a beautiful post, and yes, Rupi Kaur is the best!
Thank you so much Tiffany!! YES I love her so much!!
<3 Jessica